這真的太驚人了

完全不敢放到 Facebook 上 >"<

下面的評語下得有多好：「從來不知道三分零八秒這樣的漫長......」

真希望大家都看一看這個結果

拜託各位, 別再選音樂放了.
安安靜靜地不是很好嗎 ?

An Open Relationship

我想我應該把這個解釋記錄下來 ~ 難得有人這麼認真地回答我這個問題, 雖然我知道這可能有點著作權的問題 ....

Probably I haven't been in a relationship for too long so I don't know why people want to escape from their partners and look for sex with other people. There must be a very good reason, because there are really too many of them out there. At the same time, I hope someday they can understand that single guys like me also want to have some opportunities to meet other single guys so I can be like them to step into a relationship. They have already got partners. Why don't they leave others to us, but want to take more and more ?

Well, I don't think it's quite that simple...People usually open-up their relationships after awhile because parts of the relationship work, and parts of it don't...This can be for many reasons, but usually one partner is more sexually-active and one isn't as interested in sex anymore, and I think the nice thing about being gay is that we don't have to imitate straight relationships, but can have any kind of relationship we want...Some guys have two husbands, others have committed, monogamous relationships, while others feature a couple who play together, apart, and have multiple sex partners...We have the freedom to have whatever type of relationship works for each individual couple, instead of having to have some 'out of the box' straight relationship facsimile that doesn't even work for all straight couples, let lane gay couples. 

I don't think guys in open relationships are 'taking away' any potential mates for single guys, as most partners in open relationships have no interest in breaking-up their partnerships, so if they are playing with single gay men, those single gay men are also still available for dating, but, as you know, not all single gay men even WANT to be in relationships, so again, we each have the opportunity to create whatever type of relationship--or non-relationship--that works for each of us, and we're free to pursue that in traditional or non-traditional ways, which I think is the beauty of being gay...We can be ourselves, whatever that means for each of us, and we don't have to live our lives in a 'formulaic' way...

[CNN] Obama says he supports same-sex marriage

This is absolutely the moment that I want to keep down :

    http://www.cnn.com/2012/05/09/politics/obama-same-sex-marriage/


We need this 3rd populous country in the world to also agrees that same sex marriage should be legalized, so people at other corners of the world won't be afraid to face this proposition. And I believe, if legalizing same sex marriage in such a large country can also be worked out, we can work it out anywhere.


The responses to Obama's announcement :

    http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2012/05/09/responses-to-obamas-same-sex-marriage-announcement/

Positive so far.

I didn't like Barack Obama too much. Of course this doesn't mean he has made me lean to the Republican side, but it's obvious that Obama didn't do a great job and that makes me hesitant to back his 2nd term performance up. However, as a member in the LGBT community, I would vote for him only for this.

Wondering when this can become discussible in Taiwan ....

我早該

也許我早該為你決定你的未來。

我沒有，我猶豫了。我猶豫我該不該不照著你的喜好走、我猶豫我該不該為你決定你的喜好是不是這麼值得堅持；我也許還猶豫，我是不是該這麼在乎你。所以我用了一個偷懶的想法：你喜歡，所以我隨著你。我不必當個神，來決定你的方向。

我顯然不真是的這麼想的。否則，當我再度看到你的時候，我不會後悔我沒有及早介入，而讓你無謂地自食惡果。雖然，「惡」來自角度；是不是真的「惡」，永遠也沒有定論。我相信這是良知。在經驗足夠證明的故事裏，它是我們的絕對判斷準則；而在能力所及的範圍中，能往「善」多做一步，永遠會讓我們感到欣慰。

至於經驗會多麼誤導判斷，則又是另外一件事了。大概這也就是歷史不斷地上演悲劇的真正原因之一吧。

This is part of being a man

太讓人驚奇的照片

男人永遠是這樣的。吸引人的外表永遠是一切的源頭，而不是個性、想法、合不合適、或是應不應該。看看王建民在自拍照上的那張臉就曉得了。包括我在內，這麼多人都親眼見過王建民，他的臉上從來也沒有這麼自然而輕鬆的笑容過。這張照片帶來的驚奇有多麼地嚇人，相信所有見過王建民的人都能講出來給你聽。於是在神魂顛倒之餘，誰會在乎激情之後要收什麼尾？

這當然不是我的重點。讓我們跳過這位體重起碼不足 50 公斤的貨。

於是相同的故事發生在了我的身上。當然我不是知名球星、沒有幾百萬美金的年薪、不是已婚的父親、還沒有已經承諾的伴侶；這讓我的故事一點也不聳動。只是，成因相同而已。

或許是我多年來從來沒有試著這樣挑戰過美國人的心臟，所以我直到現在才發現了這件事。也許我以後應該多做一點這種事，好更加明白這個國家的人在想些什麼。

我一直以為美國人早就學會了政治正確，特別是同性戀圈裏喜歡亞洲族裔的胖子。這様背景的人照理說比較難偏激，主要不單純是必須在被歧視的族群裏合理化自己的特殊味口，還包括他們的人生比一般大眾的更加曲折。在這裏我必須再度同意在土耳其遇到的亞美尼亞後裔旅行團，他們的這句話應該是我近年來聽過最簡捷的真理了：

      The more you see, the better person you are.

當你必須接受更多的差異的同時，你也會變成一個包容力更強的人。我想我會永遠記得這句話，而這對一個已經四十歲的中年人而言真是不容易，因為在這個年紀，大部份的話都是聽過了就忘了。

今天的這段對話一開始真是嚇壞了我：這位擁有歷史學位的準碩士生居然用「邪惡」這樣的字眼形容伊斯蘭宗教。我提醒他，伊斯蘭教是一個擁有 20 億信眾、而且已經存在將近 1400 年的宗教；這樣受歡迎的宗教如果「邪惡」，本身就會是很沒有道理的一件事。顯然他不接受這個立場。他告訴我，他知道地球上有一群和他很不一樣的人選擇了這個宗教，而他很為他們的選擇感到無奈。這段對話馬上停止了，因為我不想透過網路談這種事，於是把話題轉到了食物上 - 一個胖子永遠會感到開心的主題。

知道這樣的案例，我基本上還算開心。我終於有機會真正認識對伊斯蘭教不具好感、卻很可能說不出太好的理由的基督教徒。這件事在歷史上已經發生了 1400 年，但進入 21 世紀仍然在發生在第一世界，卻是歷史上的一件奇蹟。我感受到了很強的難度，一方面是我面對的是熟知歷史的高手，另一方面是我必須使用英文。但是我想挑戰一次，看看我能不能漸漸地改變這個人，為伊斯蘭教出點力。機會不會發生得太早，這位局中人住在聖地牙哥，開車要 8 個小時才能到 ... 天知道什麼時候見得到面；但是我很樂於把這位網友放在我的造訪名單上，做好我的功課，然後跟他正式開講。

遇到這種偏激份子，你是不是很好奇，我為什麼要為了一件與我不相干的事情和他計較；而不是直接選擇遠離這個個案，尋找另一個更輕鬆的網友進行下一場令人愉快的交談呢？而且有一件如此重大的事情彼此有南轅北轍的觀點，就代表有更多其他的大小事可能造成衝突。我為什麼要去惹這個麻煩？

理由好簡單的。他真的還挺優的 ....