An Open Relationship

我想我應該把這個解釋記錄下來 ~ 難得有人這麼認真地回答我這個問題, 雖然我知道這可能有點著作權的問題 ....

Probably I haven't been in a relationship for too long so I don't know why people want to escape from their partners and look for sex with other people. There must be a very good reason, because there are really too many of them out there. At the same time, I hope someday they can understand that single guys like me also want to have some opportunities to meet other single guys so I can be like them to step into a relationship. They have already got partners. Why don't they leave others to us, but want to take more and more ?

Well, I don't think it's quite that simple...People usually open-up their relationships after awhile because parts of the relationship work, and parts of it don't...This can be for many reasons, but usually one partner is more sexually-active and one isn't as interested in sex anymore, and I think the nice thing about being gay is that we don't have to imitate straight relationships, but can have any kind of relationship we want...Some guys have two husbands, others have committed, monogamous relationships, while others feature a couple who play together, apart, and have multiple sex partners...We have the freedom to have whatever type of relationship works for each individual couple, instead of having to have some 'out of the box' straight relationship facsimile that doesn't even work for all straight couples, let lane gay couples. 

I don't think guys in open relationships are 'taking away' any potential mates for single guys, as most partners in open relationships have no interest in breaking-up their partnerships, so if they are playing with single gay men, those single gay men are also still available for dating, but, as you know, not all single gay men even WANT to be in relationships, so again, we each have the opportunity to create whatever type of relationship--or non-relationship--that works for each of us, and we're free to pursue that in traditional or non-traditional ways, which I think is the beauty of being gay...We can be ourselves, whatever that means for each of us, and we don't have to live our lives in a 'formulaic' way...